It?s a well-known fact that our media promotes sexuality?explicitly and implicitly. Turn on the television any evening or weekend afternoon and you?ll see scantily clad women selling cars, beer, and most recently,?mattresses. You can also see a range of ads promoting increased sexual capacity for men.
There?s the cheesy ad for a ?male enhancement? pill?it?s not specific but we see the male actor smiling widely as he talks about satisfaction. The ad is peppered with subliminal messages where men swing rigid golf clubs and the such. Viagra ads seem to feature men alone and have been promoted by well known men, often athletes. Interestingly enough the Viagra ads are all about erections and don?t refer to a partner. ?They aren?t promoting an intimate relationship?just erections!
Cialis and Levitra always show men and women together. There is talk about sustaining interest and closeness. Each couple is in some sort of embrace, ranging from handholding to cuddling and dancing. This is about couples, intimacy and the implied ability to be ready for sexual intercourse.
Four different products?all for men. All designed to help men achieve an erection and therefore, satisfy their women. Even the new K-Y ads feature a new two-part product, one for him and one for her, designed to be used together. These ads show a man and woman undressed, though covered, in a bed.
When was the last time you saw an ad for a product designed to enhance arousal for a woman? I?ve never seen an ad like that. One could assume that advertisers and network moguls don?t think women need to be aroused?.we just need rock-hard penises! ?Sigh.
Yet there is a product for women. Zestra. It?s FDA approved and has clinical research on its effectiveness in enhancing sexual pleasure for women. According to the makers of the product, most television networks refuse, yes refuse, to air the ads. They allow ads that explicitly mention erections but won?t allow ads for a botanical topical oil designed to provide enhanced sexual stimulation for women? (many of whom will presumably be using it in conjunction w/ a male partner?)
I totally agree with the comments made by?Laura Grindstaff, an associate professor of sociology at UC Davis, who notes that many cultures are uncomfortable with the idea of female sexuality outside reproduction and?motherhood.
?When you see naked women bounding around in any music video or open a magazine and see ads for?cars or cosmetics, half-naked women are everywhere,? Grindstaff said. ?That is not women?s sexuality. What you see is completely bound up and constructed by male ideas of what women?s sexuality ought to be. An ad like Zestra?s, with no men in it, about women?s pleasure for the sake of pleasure, is threatening, I guess. What other explanation could there?be??
Grindstaff is quoted in a 2010 article featured in the San Francisco Chronicle, Ads for Zestra Women?s Arousal Oil Rejected, It?s a well written, fascinating article about the product, today?s culture and the continuing battle over women?s sexuality. And, in this current conservative climate, it takes on greater significance. You can visit the Zestra website to see links to articles and videos discussing the product as well as the puzzling refusal to allow ads for Zestra on television.
The people at Zestra promote their product using a variety of methods for reaching out to target audiences. As a woman blogger who often writes about sexuality I was approached by them several weeks ago. ?I agreed to try their product and was sent a free sample (that?s my disclosure). Really?who turns down the chance to enhance their sexual pleasure?
I did a little research before agreeing to try the product and read a wide range of views on Amazon.com from women who purchased the product. I looked at the website and read the articles, watched a couple of videos and was convinced that the product has someone of value to offer women. For that reason I?m blogging about it, to help get out the word. We deserve to have our needs focused on and we want products that are safe, reliable and address our specific sexual issues and experiences.
My sample of the product came in a discreet white box, not much bigger than a box of new checks. They sent me a small bottle of the oil and a bottle of Zestra Glide, a lubricant. The product comes with detailed instructions and guidelines for usage.
Zestra is a topical gel, it?s not designed for internal use but of course it would be impossible in sex play not have internal exposure. The instructions recommended 4 ?pumps? of the gel which you rub on with fingers. The instructions say to use it on the clitoris, labia and outer areas of the vagina. Wait 5 minutes and ?.Voila!
The first time I used a little less than recommended. Then I got out my watch and waited. In less than 2 minutes I was feeling a warm sensation. By five minutes I think I was at my max. I don?t know if it brings a rush of blood to the area or just the tingling, warm sensation. But, it worked. ? I timed the sensation. I should have timed the orgasm!
The warm feeling stayed for a good 30 minutes or more, as the instructions indicated. A few days later, I tried it for a second time. I used less than 1/2 the recommended amount this time and it was still provided a sensation, though much less intense.
I have yet to use it with a partner because the person in question, is pretty sensitive and I don?t know that he?d want it ?on? him. But, I?m pretty sure if I asked, he?d be willing. Particularly if I explained that it might increase my response to him?isn?t that what every man wants?
Drawbacks? I had no sense of unpleasant smell (occasionally mentioned in Amazon reviews), it was basically neutral. The instructions don?t mention it?s use for oral stimulation so that limits your options. I guess you could try it, but the tingly effect would likely to transferred to your partner?s lips and tongue? It is designed to be used for ?foreplay, manual stimulation, vaginal intercourse and masturbation?.
I can?t address sexual dysfunction or lack of desire from a clinical perspective, but often what women experience is a combination of issues. It can be a lack of interest in sex or you may experience a physiological inability to orgasm that?s been present for years or is related to menopause. ?Zestra could add the zing, literally, that you need. ?It can stimulate a conversation with your partner about your sex life and ways to add some additional excitement. ?This is a botanical product, it?s not a medicine and it doesn?t contain chemicals. ?So, why not?
I?d recommend it simply as a fun addition to add a little kick to your sex play. When things get a little boring or you want to create a sensation for both of you, literal and figurative, this would be a nice addition.
Have you tried Zestra? If so, want to comment on it? If you don?t want to leave a comment here, you can send me an email (walker.thornton@gmail.com) and I?ll post anonymously for you.
Source: http://www.awomanspage.com/womens-sexual-enhancement-products-its-our-turn/
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